Goal Setting Like a Boss

Next week is a brand new year! And if you’re like me, New Year’s Day will be a flurry of black-eyed peas and collard greens (courtesy of my southern step-mother) along with lists of new year’s goals.

Like years past, with great intention and motivation I’ll get up each day, head to the gym for 45 minutes, meditate, do 30 minutes of yoga, eat cleanly, volunteer, write brief and inspirational notes to old friends and new acquaintances.

I’ll be a great success! The greeter at the gym will know me by name. I'll cook every meal in advance for the week ahead. Every stitch of clothing will be promptly removed from the dryer and neatly hung in the closet.

Until at least January 6th.

Then the laundry will wrinkle in a basket before it cycles back into the washer. The pre-cooked food will sour in the fridge because I can’t stand leftovers (and really, pre-cooked meals are nothing but a glorified time-hack-leftover that’s… gross). The gym greeter will ask for two forms of ID to confirm my membership.

But this year will be different. It’s not the same New Year’s promises of past years. No, by golly, this year will be different because of a straightforward shift: Focus.

The problem with goal setting is that it’s often too broad, too global, too challenging to sustain.

Goal setting is usually a mix of wants and needs: I want to earn $1 million and I need to give back to my community more.

Great goals, but a bit difficult to achieve without focus.

Because goals can be pushed to the side, stashed away under the couch, and forgotten again until the next New Year’s.

That's why focus is the number one success ingredient when it comes to goals.

Focus is a bit of a touchstone. It motivates you to take action while keeping you in check and ensuring you’re still on the right path.

When you narrow your focus, you’re able to commit more efficiently and reduce demands that lead to overwhelm.

Success cannot happen when there is overwhelm, which is what occurs too often with just goal setting.

However, with focus, all things are possible.

With that in mind, my focus in 2019 is tri-fold:


I’m going to move more. My body loves to walk. It loves yoga. Though I’m slower than a turtle, I feel strongest when I walk-jog. Swimming is my most favorite activity; I could live in water.

But sometimes I don’t move enough because I work too many hours; I over-extend and over-commit myself. And as a result, my body struggles with the pain and upset that sitting causes.

That’s why my focus for the following year is to move my body throughout the day and the week meaningfully.


In every business visibility is a problem, and yet it's the way that we work toward making sure that people know about the work that we’re doing.

This past year I’ve been doing a lot of work behind the scenes: Developing courses and programs to help therapists and coaches and healthcare professionals up-level their private practice. I’ve poured my years of knowledge, failures, and successes into these programs.

But I haven’t been visible enough. So this year I am committing to making myself very visible.

Because I believe in visibility; I just haven’t taken the time to do it. In essence, I haven’t practiced what I preach. I'm changing this in the coming year.

I’m going to use Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and Pinterest to make my work much more known and accessible.

I’m even co-hosting a virtual summit at the end of January to help psychotherapists increase their visibility.

I’m super excited about this, and I hope you’ll sign up for it right here.

Live in the Round:

My third area of focus is to live life in the round rather than straight ahead. Often I focus on what I need to do to enhance and grow my businesses, but usually to a detriment because I work without enough play. Play is essential to recovery, resiliency, creativity, growth, and recharging. As a play therapist of 20 years, I know this all too well.

As they say, all work and no play makes Sara a stressed out mess. But not this year! This year the hubs and I will travel. At least quarterly, we’ll take a fun, no-work trip to someplace new. And we’ll play: at the beach, as a tourist, in a new city... It's indeed something to look forward to every few months, and I can’t wait to make it happen.

I know how easy it is to lose focus if there isn’t proper accountability. My past failures have taught me the need to be transparent. As such, I’ll post regular updates about my progress throughout the year, so come back and check in to see how I’m doing. I could use the support.

If you could use a bit more accountability and support, consider joining my free FB group, the DreamWork Collective™. It’s a place where dreams really do come true.

I’m thrilled to see where this next year leads! I would love to hear what you’re planning for the coming year. Let’s grow together.

I wish you a most beautiful New Year!


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